Monthly Archives: May 2012

A little faked confidence goes a long way

It has been a slow on work end of things, but as it was a long weekend that was to be expected. One interesting thing this week is a realization, I guess you could call it an awakening.

I learned this weekend, entirely by accident, that there are several women who admire and respect me for who I am. It makes me proud that when others are talking about me they are discussing my confidence, knowledge and self-assurance. I try to present myself using an old computer term WYSIWIG, What You See Is What You Get. I don’t hide things, or cover up my imperfections. I put it all out there for the world to see, yet I try to do it with dignity.

I was very in secure when younger, we didn’t have a lot of money so I didn’t have a lot of the ‘in’ things. Out of my group of ‘friends’ from elementary school I was the one who was the butt of the jokes, the last one chosen for things etc… One day shortly after we started junior high I realized that I didn’t to be with that group anymore I didn’t have to be the bottom of the rung. I could make my own choice and that day I did. I remember clearly the group of us five girls walking towards the cafeteria, the others were talking about something and basically ignoring anything I did or said anyhow so I just veered off and walked the other way. That was the start of my self-confidence.

After that I stood straight whenever I was intimidated by something or someone and basically pictured myself immune to taunts, I imagined a big glass bubble around myself and ignored everything, let everything bounce off of it.  I can’t say I really had a ‘group’ of friends after that, but I had acquaintances. I was welcome in every group, I hung with nerds and geeks, pot heads and gear heads, it didn’t matter where I went.

When I am most afraid that is when I think logically and if it is something I should do then I will do it. I will admit my fears, but I will also conquer them. It took me a while to get here, but it started with a decision and the fortitude to follow through with my decision.

As for those girls, I don’t know if they ever even noticed I left. I think one of them checked on me a week or so later. What I do know is that it was one of the smartest decisions of my life. They are still in our home town, I’m not even sure if they have ever left. All have been divorced at least once, one of them is on her third marriage. All of them have children from different men and at least two of them had some serious drug problems.

I stepped beyond that and moved to a world different from theirs, a little faked confidence goes a long way.



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My husband finally believes me

Things are coming along okay, not enough yet to say I can make a living at this, but its starting look like I have a chance.  I now have two steady ghost writing jobs and I have picked up a job as a contributor on a blossoming web site. I really hope this website kicks off to a good start because it’s on one of my favorite topics, cars. If this goes well I have a legitimate excuse to prowl dealerships. If it goes well enough, maybe I can include some of the repair projects for Bernice.

1940 Oldsmobile 60 series

On the home front, it seems that my husband is actually starting to consider this a job. He actually made the comment about me “trying to start my business,” I almost fell over. That is the first time I have heard him admit it might just be feasible.

I admit that if this is going to take off then I need to start making a better system to keep track of the work and my billing or I am going to be giving away more than I make.  For the rest of this month I will be working on a spreadsheet design that will go into effect at the beginning of next month. The hard part will be that my clients all want different billing cycles, I will figure something out.

April Carvelli
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Martha, farming and me

The writing is going well I’ve been picking quite a bit of piecework. It is actually getting to the point where I will have to start looking at my clientele and weeding it out a bit. I could look at farming the work, but they are pretty low paying jobs and I know that I disliked seeing all the low-end stuff out there when I started a few month ago. I think it would be hypocritical of me to start hiring someone out of the country just because they will take the pennies I can afford to offer them.

Unfortunately the Martha Stewart job is completed, they apparently hired a lot of us to do the work which meant that job ended sooner than I expected. The good thing is that I am in their database and when the next project is set to go I am on the list to do it.

I am currently in dispute with one site I write posts for, they are supposed to pay me for the articles based off of traffic. However it seems a large portion of my links to their sites, don’t work. One of the sites has an expired domain name and one of them doesn’t link to my article and a few of them seem to be recording traffic wrong.

Last weeks dinner was a huge disappointment.  The restaurant sounded fantastic, it was done up as a slightly higher end place but the food quality was poor. My husband and I both ordered what sounded like a delicious Portobello encrusted chicken, it was dry and flavorless. My Irish coffee tasted like water with a little alcohol added to it and my husbands drink was about the same quality. Our friends played it safe with soda and burgers and seem to have lucked out there. As I had suspected, the surprise birthday party was for me…not much of a surprise, but fun. It was at my friends bar for whom I have written a review.

This blog post was my break for the day, I have six more articles to write today on Dentistry. Wish me luck

April Carvelli

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Calgon take me away!

Today I stare blankly at a computer as I fight the urge to sleep. It has been an eventful week and today will be the pinnacle which I am not entirely looking forward to.

On Monday, as you know, I battled with LG and Irobot, both resulted in minor victories though one company has probably lost a customer. LG has fixed my machine and offered to replace any damaged clothing. IRobot on the other hand is running what I consider a scam on their warranty returns.

The week got better on Tuesday with a Skype interview and I have picked up a rather large-scale regular writing job on a multitude of topics. The awesome thing about this is the lack of guidelines, I have a rather wide and generic topics and can write them on whatever interests me.

The training session on Wednesday resulted in me doing some video notating for a company that is currently archiving for Martha Stewart, there are thousands of video clips that need work and then there are at least three large-scale projects after that.

Friday didn’t end until after 1 am last night as I was involved in a game of Pathfinder (D&D type game) that didn’t seem like it was going to end.

And this morning started at around 6am with a child asking me to turn on TV for him. Today will be insane and Caffeine will definitely be a friend. I have the boys baseball game at 9am, then a baby shower for my future daughter-in-laws sister at one, I have to be up in Wisconsin by 6pm to go to dinner with a friend followed by a trip to a bar for a surprise birthday party. Which will lead to me crashing at the hotel sometime after 3 am.

On Sunday I have to meet friends for traditional Dennys hangover breakfast at around 8 then take a two-hour trip back home to relieve the babysitter who happens to be my husbands ex-wife (looooong involved story there that resulted in several arguments). Unfortunately I also have 8 articles to write on Sunday, I just hope I have enough brain power to handle them.

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